ONE Healthy Little Peanut

Our ultrasound today, at 6 weeks and 4 days, went great!  One baby that looks like a little peanut, measuring right on track with a healthy, flickering heartrate.  We did not do PGD, mainly because we did not personally want to be able to choose the sex of the baby, and because our pre-IVF genetic testing came back all-clear.  I may do the blood test at 12 weeks to ensure baby is healthy, genetically, and also find out sex at that time so the planning and shopping can begin!

Oh, and I got a job, and I start on Monday!  What a huge relief! Now we can get back on the house hunting and and move forward with no worries.  Now I just have to figure out how to get my next ultrasound completed in 2 weeks across-state.  I have to find an obgyn who will work with the clinic until 12 weeks, and figure out how to squeeze these appointments into my new, unknown work routine.

Anyone have advice on how to handle starting a job in early pregnancy?  Tell them up front?  Wait until 12 weeks?  Anyone been through this and have any experiences to share, good, bad, or otherwise?

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2nd Beta and Ultrasound Delay

My 2nd beta was taken last Tuesday, 4 days after the initial beta.  It multiplies 3.7 times the initial beta in just 4 days, and the other labs (thyroid and progesterone) that they measured were all pointing to a healthy pregnancy.

The closing of the house got delayed to later this week, so I also moved my first ultrasound back.  I have to travel about 4 hours to accomplish both of these tasks in the Houston-area, so I wanted to do them in the same day.  I also have to return my laptop to my soon to be former employer while I am in town.  At that point, I will officially be…unemployed, homeless, and pregnant.  But hey, I have an interview tomorrow that sounds promising, so fingers crossed that I get the job and can proceed with buying a new house!

The girls keep saying things like, “I dont want to go to Nana and Papa’s house, I want to go to my house!”, “I can’t find my house anywhere, it’s gone!”, and reminiscing about all of their things that are currently in storage.  Send prayers, good thoughts, or any good luck you may have to spare our way so that things will fall in place quickly.  Fingers crossed!

Beta Update

4809.  It was 1928 at the same point with my twins, both transfers only included one embryo.  I don’t know what to think about this right now, but we will see what that all means at my next appointment.   I’m a little shocked right now, and don’t have many words.  Obviously, I am extremely happy to be pregnant!  No doubt, I am up for whatever adventure this leads me on.  I wouldn’t blink twice if it is twins again.  I just didn’t think it would happen again.  Statistically, I believe the odds of two consecutive sets of identical twins with single embryo transfers are extremely low, I’m seeing something like 1 in 70,000.

We moved to Dallas!  And I have been on 4 interviews, and more to come.  Still searching for the right home to purchase and living with in-laws at the moment, which has actually been nice.  We are hopefully narrowing in on the right job and home this week, and I’m going back to Houston next Monday to close on the sale of our house, and probably an ultrasound at the fertility clinic.  Will keep you posted!

Shh!!! I have a secret.

It’s official!  We are moving across state, just signed a contract to sell our home, and have an inspection on Monday.   That’s not the secret, though.  On Friday, I have an embryo transfer!  When we realized the timing of our move, we decided to go ahead and prepare to complete a transfer while we were in town.  Our twins turn three in September, so they would be about 3.5 when baby arrives, should this transfer be successful.  I have told my sister and mentioned it to a couple of friends, but I am otherwise keeping it a secret as long as I can.  I had to put it out there and share with the community to get it off my chest.

I am looking forward to taking some time off work this summer with the kids as their new school doesn’t start until August, getting settled into the house and our community, and continuing to take a couple graduate courses this summer.   We will figure the rest out from there.

There is quite a bit riding on this embryo transfer, since it would just be (almost) impossible to work with a fertility clinic in Houston when we are settled in Dallas.  Regardless of the outcome, this transfer signifies the end of our IVF chapter.  It will hurt like hell if it doesn’t work out, but I know with the love of my husband and my precious girls, we will get through it.

And what if it is more successful than planned?  What if we have identical twins again?  I have had so many people tell me stories of families with multiple sets of twins.  I’ll let you in on another little secret: I’m not scared!  🙂  Bring it on!

Any cycle buddies?

Big decision! Career Advancement or Fertility Treatments?

Recently, my husband and I were faced with a very big decision.  Although we’ve been TTC for several years, we’d never gotten close to even considering IVF until about a month ago.  After several failed, monitored clomid cycles and 2 failed IUIs, we took a 2 month break from fertility treatments over the summer to mentally and physically rehab and agreed to not talk about fertility treatments (although we did agree to take some natural fertility supplements over the summer – from GNC – I’ll write more about this product later).  

Finally, after 2 very quiet months of not talking about what we really wanted to talk about most, we started seeing a new RE and undergoing a few additional test and a monitored cycle to try and get out of this unexplained infertility category. They thought I may have hypothyroidism (nope!) or Endometriosis due to painful periods (still do not know for sure).  Finally, we had our long awaited results debrief with our RE, and he gave us an estimated 85% chance of success with IVF (at $10K plus meds I was able to secure for less than $2500 through Avella Speciality Pharmacy! Isn’t this low?!) or about a 5-10% chance with doing another injectable/combo IUI (at about $4K/month due to injectable med cost vs. just Femara or Clomid).  Immediately, we decided that IVF seemed like the only logical option with those odds, albeit these are only an estimate with no guarantees.  We scheduled our nurse consult and IVF seminar with the embryologist for the following Wednesday to get the ball rolling.  

The same day, I also received a call from a recruiter about my dream job!  Well, this job required a bit of travel, but was an executive level position in the industry I want to be in and comes with a huge pay increase – pretty dreamy for a 29 year old.  I met with the 3rd party recruiter and he wanted to schedule me with the president of the company for, you guessed it, the same day as my IVF seminar and nurse consult.  I almost turned down the interview, and then subsequently contemplated cancelling the interview up until the very last minute.  The interview went better than I could have wished for and he offered me the job on the spot with a very tempting pay package.  I expressed my extreme gratitude for the opportunity, and told him I’d need some time to think about it over the next week.  After the interview, I drove across town to the IVF clinic for the consult and seminar.  How could I be SO EXCITED about both options?!  How could I even consider taking this job when what I’ve desparately wanted and pursued for the last 3 years (a child) is finally, hopefully right at my fingertips!?  Do I even know what I want out of life?! 

Well, despite all good economical sense, I declined the job and chose to instead invest more money into fertility treatments rather than make nearly twice as much money in the next year.  I’m really money smart, huh? 😉  

My older sister who is an OB GYN surgeon and working mom of 2 boys, encouraged me to read Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, which I found to be an interesting read for working moms and moms to be who are in leadership positions (although it did not convince me I could or wanted to “do it all”). My husband and I had made our decision.  At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what is more valuable?  Wealth or a legacy?

Sure, we can probably have both eventually, but we’ll have to find another route.  The wealth part is definitely going to come second to the legacy part for me.  I am very much at peace with the decision, and was very open and honest when I turned down the position.  I told him I had chosen to pursue a life-changing decision to start a family at this time in my life, but that I would love to have discussions with him regarding future openings on his team.  He was very receptive to revisiting in the future, and respected my decision and honesty.  

Well, the good news is I also talked to my current boss, and they are making a new position for me that will actually be a nice promotion as well as a move to a direct contributor position (rather than my very stressful job managing a team of 6).  More money, less stress, no responsibility for others, and also a dream of mine to obtain this particular job title/role. I proposed it and they were completely on board.  I am very comforted that although I turned down a seemingly much better position, I was able to be real with my boss and the executives at my company, and they moved mountains to support me and keep me here in this next chapter in life (fingers crossed I’m able to begin that chapter soon!).

Isn’t God’s timing funny?  I found this particularly odd yet also perfect timing for God to present me with these opportunities.  If I’d been offered the job 2 months ago, I would have accepted it in a heartbeat and just rode out the natural approach to fertility – wait and see, because at the time I thought we’d exhausted our resources and energy for treatments.  So grateful for His perfect timing, and I pray that a child from this upcoming IVF cycle is in His plan for us.  

Have you had to make big, confusing career decisions related to your pursuit of fertility treatments?

4th Anniversary – The Perfect Summer Evening under the Stars!

Last Friday, my husband and I celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary and it was probably the best yet.  We really had a simple evening, but it was perfect and beautiful other than my husband getting rear-ended on his way to pick me up and having an little snafu with my car key that required him taking me to work in the first place.  Because of that little incident resulting in a slight delay, we ended up having to grab a quick dinner at Chipotle, but hey – if you’re not going to a fine dining establishment, Chipotle is as good as anything!  We didn’t want to be late to the main event, the Fallout Boy and Paramore concert!  We just grabbed a couple of lawn tickets and we completely lucked out with it being the coolest night of the summer (thank you, Polar Vortex!) to relax on the lawn.  We live in South Texas, so let’s just say that 75 degrees and breezy is a pretty rare and beautiful thing in the month of August!  Also, the concert was amazing!  Great quality music and very high energy and light-hearted.  We used to go to concerts every week when we were in college and now we go to about one or two a year.   This one was just different, we have sort of “grown up” with these bands over the last 10 years throughout our twenties and they are both much more mature than when they started – I’d like to think we are as well.  It was just great feeling like carefree, young 20 somethings just having fun and singing along at a rock concert like old times!  A nice relief from 2 almost thirties struggling through infertility and just signed up for IVF.

To my husband…the last 4 years of marriage have had their ups and downs, to say the least. It’s been 8 and a half years since we met and became best friends instantly. In those 8 and a half years, you have never failed to support me and love me unconditionally even when I was far from lovable. Despite all the good times, we have also triumphed over some very serious challenges  (ahem, infertility and the marital woes it tends to cause), and I’m so happy to have you by my side and going stronger than ever!

It’s was also a bitter sweet day, also being the anniversary of my beloved Granddaddy’s death 2 years ago. He made such a huge impression on myself, my siblings, and really anyone who ever met him from what I know. He was passionate about developing and encouraging other people to become their very best personally, professionally, and in their relationship and service to God. I am so blessed to have experienced his influence in my life and only wish I’d had more time with him.  Additionally, my Grandmother had a bit of a health set-back this week, suffering from a stroke while undergoing maintenance chemo for multiple myeloma.  She is the strongest woman I know, and I know she will overcome the challenges she’s facing. Lord, please heal Grandma so she may continue to uplift, strengthen, and set a shining example of grace, beauty, and Godliness for our family for many years to come.

Baby Books – My Husband is the Cutest!

Last week, my husband and I were on vacation together, which turned into a stay-cation due to impending IVF and not knowing what to expect as far as required appointments or when my cycle would start.  The stay-cation was glorious!  Why have we never done this before?!  Being relatively new homeowners, and newer to our community (we used to live inner-city, and now we sort of live in the outskirts of the suburbs), there was so much to see and do around town together.  My husband is an attorney and works very long hours during the week (love that he’s employed, but I despise the hours), so this was just a wonderful little retreat from all of the hustle, bustle, and loneliness that comes with the territory of being an attorney’s wife.  (I work, too, but my schedule is more of a 40-50 hr/wk gig vs. 70-80 hrs.  I don’t mean to complain or sound ungrateful, I just long for more time with my sweet husband.)
 
Enjoying our stay-cation, just being young and silly together like old times, and excited about our upcoming IVF cycle, we stumbled into Barnes & Nobles one day to pick up some parenting and pregnancy books.  Although we’ve struggled with infertility for the last 3 years, we’re in a really good place and delusional incredibly hopeful about the prospects of IVF.  I’ve decided the only way to approach this is to truly believe it will work, so we figured it’s time to start preparing ourselves for what is to come in this next phase in our life.  I picked up “I’m Pregnant” by Lesley Regan and “Fit & Healthy Pregnancy”, and my husband picked up “Dude, You’re Gonna Be a Dad!” and “The Expectant Father” after combing through the array of options available on the bookshelf.  There are several other best selling pregnancy and baby books I want to read, but I steered clear of the real popular ones for now.  When the time comes, I’ll bum them off of my sister, SILs, or friends who are new mommies. 
 
Anyway, we read them for a bit that evening, and finally I go to bed.  I wake up at around 5:30 am to realize that my husband has still not been to bed!  Here I am, snuggled up in bed for nearly a full 8 hours with our Goldendoodle’s head on my tummy and my King Charles Spaniel snuggling my neck, but no husband to be found! Frustrated and a little concerned, I walk into the office where my husband is curled up in the chair reading his parenting books.  I said, “honey – what are you doing?  This isn’t a race!?  Don’t you want to come to bed?”  He says, “I’m not tired – and this parenting thing is just too exciting!”.  I just melt. 
 
I was thinking, awe – that’s the cutest thing ever!  But I’m going to be annoyed when he’s sleeping all day long and we sort of lose a vacation/stay-cation day together.  Again, he surprises me.  He came to bed for about an hour after a little coaxing, only to get up and take Tucker (the spaniel) to the vet for his teeth cleaning as he promised he would and spent the entire day by my side doing all sorts of fun things.
 
He’s seriously the best.  And I know that he’s going to be an amazing dad!